Since my wife and I moved to the city we call home about 8 years ago, we have had the absolute blessing of some wonderful friendships. Many of these friends attend various other churches on Sunday morning. I can think of 4 good friends of mine that are the Head Pastors of 4 different churches in this very city. These are men that are my mentors, Godly council, accountability partners and dear friends to me. I can honestly say that I have never once thought any less of them, nor has it damaged our relationship that we worship in different places on Sunday morning. I’m actually thrilled to see God at work in their lives. Just a few weekends ago, I had breakfast with a brother that I had not seen in many years. It was wonderful to hear that he is leading a small group and how much they love their church.
To me, it really boils down to remembering what team we are on. We are all on the same team. As long as the theology and doctrine of the church is in line with where it needs to be, why don’t we celebrate with others when they find a good church home? Churches, by their very nature are different. Some are big, some are small. Some feature worship music that is current, some are traditional. Some are outreach driven. Others are somewhat “consumer” driven. What I want most for my Christian brothers and sisters is that they would find a home where they can discover their spiritual gifts and be used by God to advance His Kingdom. It strengthens the team when one is in a position where he/she can excel.
The other thing I really try to remember in these situations is that I don’t know everything about what drove someones decision to leave or find a new church. I think Christians often hide the things they are dealing with more than anyone else as to not appear that they don’t have it all together. Judging why someone would choose a church is dangerous ground. I believe we should allow God to speak to each persons heart and trust that He is moving them where they need to be. Imagine the impact if we focused our time and energy on the hurting, the less fortunate, the unsaved and those that need the love of Christ.
We are all on the same team. It should not matter where we go on Sunday morning. What matters is that we are here to advance the Kingdom of God. We are here to be the “hands and feet”. We need to remember what team we play for.
**Originally Posted February, 2008