On Thursday morning we looked out the window as the rain came down. I never in my wildest dreams thought we would get this 4 mile run in. The weatherman said there was 100% chance of rain. Temperatures were supposed to be in the 40’s. Yet when our friends arrived to ride to the race with us, they said it wasn’t all that cold outside. We also noted that the rain was a mild mist. So off we went…..
This year was even more special because my wife and I were joined by our 10 year old son and our 7 year old daughter. Who knew that THEY would be the ones pushing to run this race..even in the rain. The rain stopped in time for the race and held off until it was finished. Both kids finished the race with only needing to stop a few short times. They even had enough left in the tank for a spirited 50 yard dash to the finish line. It was a wonderful memory that I hope we repeat for years and years to come.
Yesterday I sat my 7 year old daughter on my lap and together we listened to this song. As the chorus rang out, I whispered the words into her ear. I wanted her to know that she is “Beautiful. She is sacred. She is treasured. She is His”. Why you ask?
Children with involved Fathers are more confident, better able to deal with frustration, better able to gain independence and their own identity, more likely to mature into compassionate adults, more likely to have a high self esteem, more sociable, more secure as infants, less likely to show signs of depression, less likely to commit suicide, more empathetic, boys have been shown to be less aggressive and adolescent girls are less likely to engage in sex.
Daughters without a Father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves.
Researchers of Columbia University found that children living in households with a poor relationship with their father are 68% more likely to smoke, drink or use drugs.
Adolescent girls raised with involved Fathers are significantly less likely to be sexually active than girls raised without involved Fathers.
I will say that I know of several single moms that are doing an incredible job raising their children. This post isn’t to say that it cannot be done. I know some wonderful moms that are breaking the mold and proving the statistics wrong. I honor their dedication.
Dads – A minute or two out of your day to remind your child they are sacred, treasured, worth fighting for, important and valuable will go miles. Statistics prove that. It is our call. It is our responsibility. As it is often said..”If we don’t tell them they are beautiful, they will find someone that will”. God placed this child in your care. Treat them as you would any other gift. They’re beautiful…
Yesterday morning my three kids and I loaded up the van and took the 3 hour journey to Indianapolis for an event we always look forward to. All Pro Dad, a foundation started by Tony Dungy, is an organization dedicated to coaching Dads to spend time with their children. This was our third time attending a Father Kids Experience and second time in Indianapolis (we went to Cincinnati the first year). This was also the first time our youngest was able to go. The event is broken down into coaching stations where you learn a football drill, and then hear a brief message about family. This event featured Colts Head Coach Jim Caldwell and All Pro Dad co-founder Clyde Christensen.
The event is great, but spending an entire day with just me and the kids is what memories are made of. It also gave my wife a day all to herself. If you are not currently plugged into an All Pro Dad, or receiving their daily email, I highly recommend them both. I would also like to thank All Pro Dad for the complimentary admission into the event. We’ll cherish it forever!
Amazing how time flies. Thanks to technology, we get to see the progression on film. Enjoy…
The original – “Dance Like No One’s Watching”
A few weeks ago “the boy” told me something casually that at the time didn’t really register an alarm. He said that there is a kid in his class that is “gaining weight so he won’t fit into lockers at school”. Did you catch that? He is intentionally gaining weight so that bullies at school cannot put him in a locker. This child fears bullies at school so much that he is taking an extreme measure to insure that he’s not a target.
Are you kidding me?
Maybe I am just naive but I assumed that this has always been a problem. Each school, each class have had “that kid” that was mean, tough and overcompensating for something else in his life by bullying other kids. Movies and TV shows always have a bully. I don’t remember any names from “Saved by the Bell”, but I’m sure there was one on there too. Yet there seems to be a real uptick in the reporting of this being a problem in the schools. So is the just the “flavor of the month”, “slow news” or are we facing a new era of bullying?
I took a straw poll last night with my kids to just see what they had to say. I simply asked “Do you have bullies in your school?”
5 yr old: No…well, we have one….two actually.
She then listed them by name. So what do we as parents do? We recently ordered a copy of P90X and are teaching all three of our children to defend themselves.While I am kidding with that response (we have made no such order), I am curious how to handle this. I’m struggling with the words to tell my kids about bullies. I’m looking for ideas on what to encourage them to do.
I’m curious about your thoughts as well…..