Yesterday I sat my 7 year old daughter on my lap and together we listened to this song. As the chorus rang out, I whispered the words into her ear. I wanted her to know that she is “Beautiful. She is sacred. She is treasured. She is His”. Why you ask?
Children with involved Fathers are more confident, better able to deal with frustration, better able to gain independence and their own identity, more likely to mature into compassionate adults, more likely to have a high self esteem, more sociable, more secure as infants, less likely to show signs of depression, less likely to commit suicide, more empathetic, boys have been shown to be less aggressive and adolescent girls are less likely to engage in sex.
Daughters without a Father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves.
Researchers of Columbia University found that children living in households with a poor relationship with their father are 68% more likely to smoke, drink or use drugs.
Adolescent girls raised with involved Fathers are significantly less likely to be sexually active than girls raised without involved Fathers.
I will say that I know of several single moms that are doing an incredible job raising their children. This post isn’t to say that it cannot be done. I know some wonderful moms that are breaking the mold and proving the statistics wrong. I honor their dedication.
Dads – A minute or two out of your day to remind your child they are sacred, treasured, worth fighting for, important and valuable will go miles. Statistics prove that. It is our call. It is our responsibility. As it is often said..”If we don’t tell them they are beautiful, they will find someone that will”. God placed this child in your care. Treat them as you would any other gift. They’re beautiful…
Amazing how time flies. Thanks to technology, we get to see the progression on film. Enjoy…
The original – “Dance Like No One’s Watching”
Tomorrow morning marks the start of another school year and the first time that all three of our children will be in school all day. I’m not going to lie this is one of my least favorite days of the year. Tonight we close out the summer and tomorrow morning begins one year older, one year closer to football parties, boys, girls, acne, first cars, first loves and broken hearts. Sorry…like I said, I’m not a big fan of this night.
I just put my kids to bed and quietly whispered a prayer of protection over each one of them individually. For you “First Timer” parents walking your little ones to school in the next few days, I can really only offer you one piece of advice. It came from Country singer Pam Tillis (no, I don’t know here). She sang this lyric in a song (which had nothing to do with school…or children), but the line captured me. I am reminded of it every year at this time.
You do whatcha gotta do
When you know what you know
You hang on until you can’t hang on
Then you learn to let go
You get what you need sometimes
When it’s all said and done
You do whatcha gotta do
And you let that pony run….
A few years ago my wife and I walked “The Boy” to school and for the first time, we “let that pony run”. That was a tough day. We held the handle bars as long as we could. We taught him all we could teach him and did our best to “train him up”. I’m happy to report that he did just fine. Just fine indeed. We did the same with our middle child a few years later. Tomorrow morning, we will let go of our youngest child in the same way. It’s time to let that pony run. We’ve “held on until we can’t hang on” any longer.
In the morning we will walk all three of our children to school and release them into the world that is their school. I pray for their protection. I pray for their friends and their circle of influence. I pray that each one will be a light in their school and will care for the ones that need it most. I pray they will stand up for those that need a friend and be leaders where opportunities present themselves. I pray they will respect others and see people as Jesus sees them.
And we’ll let those ponies run….