On June 14th, 17 years ago, remarkably, Heather Anderson said “I do” and we’ve been dancin’ in the minefields ever since. Even after 4 years of long distance dating, we had no idea what we were getting into. On that day we didn’t know we’d eventually be parenting a boy and two girls. Heather didn’t realize she’d be parenting two boys and two girls (because I still haven’t grown up). We didn’t know about mortgages, debt, jobs, and all that life would throw at us. We just knew we loved each other enough to make the whole thing official.

There are literally no words to describe the strength and grace of the women I am blessed to still call my bride. I will, however, try to put words to what I simply cannot explain…

She overlooks my many faults and somehow finds the slightest thing to praise me for.

She is the rock in this family.

There is no doubt in my mind that she would follow me wherever I lead and has the courage to tell me so.

Her faith in her Creator inspires me to pursue my faith as well.

She shepherds our children’s hearts and lives.

Her attention to detail is critical because details are not one of my spiritual gifts….AT ALL!

Her beauty is timeless and her inner beauty is stunning.

For 21 years (counting our courtship), we have danced in the minefields. We have had our moments when life happened but we’ve adjusted and kept the dance going. There have been times when the music stopped but the dance always continued. Speaking of music, the day we said “I do” a friend performed a song called “When You Say Nothing At All.” Who knew it would still ring true today?

It’s amazing how you can speak right to my heart
Without saying a word you can light up the dark
Try as I may I could never explain
What I hear when you don’t say a thing

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There’s a truth in your eyes sayin’ you’ll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you’ll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best when you say nothing at all

Happy Anniversary. Thank you for 17 years of dancing in the minefields.