Let That Pony Run

Tomorrow morning marks the start of another school year and the first time that all three of our children will be in school all day. I’m not going to lie this is one of my least favorite days of the year. Tonight we close out the summer and tomorrow morning begins one year older, one year closer to football parties, boys, girls, acne, first cars, first loves and broken hearts. Sorry…like I said, I’m not a big fan of this night. I just put my kids to bed and quietly whispered a prayer of protection over each one of them … Continue reading Let That Pony Run

Dad…I'm Watching You

10 Ways To Be An All Pro Dad

Love Your Wife
True love is not a feeling. It is a decision. It’s an act of the will to be patient, kind, humble, hopeful, giving, faithful and trusting. When you commit to loving your wife this way, your feelings for her, and hers for you, will follow. Actively loving your wife will radically strengthen your marriage and will also be incredibly beneficial to your children. The number one source of security for kids is to know that their dad loves their mother and is steadfastly committed to her well-being.

Spend Time With Your Kids
How you spend your time reflects what’s important to you. If you value your kids, you’ll want to be with them. You don’t need to wait for the perfect time, when you can take a vacation or an afternoon off from work. Instead, grab those small pockets of time as they present themselves throughout the day. Call your kids on your cell phone between appointments just to say “hi.” Send them an e-mail from work. Read to them at bedtime. Carve out a few minutes to help them with their homework. Go to breakfast and drop them off at school. Grab every moment you can get with your children.

Be a Role Model
It’s impossible to underestimate the importance of a father modeling the type of behavior he desires to see in his children. Role models don’t just talk the talk; they walk the walk of an honorable man. A great place to start is consistency. Do you keep your word? Do you stand up for what is right, even when it costs you? Are you trustworthy? Are you loyal in your relationships? Be what you want your children to be!

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Dad…I’m Watching You

10 Ways To Be An All Pro Dad

Love Your Wife
True love is not a feeling. It is a decision. It’s an act of the will to be patient, kind, humble, hopeful, giving, faithful and trusting. When you commit to loving your wife this way, your feelings for her, and hers for you, will follow. Actively loving your wife will radically strengthen your marriage and will also be incredibly beneficial to your children. The number one source of security for kids is to know that their dad loves their mother and is steadfastly committed to her well-being.

Spend Time With Your Kids
How you spend your time reflects what’s important to you. If you value your kids, you’ll want to be with them. You don’t need to wait for the perfect time, when you can take a vacation or an afternoon off from work. Instead, grab those small pockets of time as they present themselves throughout the day. Call your kids on your cell phone between appointments just to say “hi.” Send them an e-mail from work. Read to them at bedtime. Carve out a few minutes to help them with their homework. Go to breakfast and drop them off at school. Grab every moment you can get with your children.

Be a Role Model
It’s impossible to underestimate the importance of a father modeling the type of behavior he desires to see in his children. Role models don’t just talk the talk; they walk the walk of an honorable man. A great place to start is consistency. Do you keep your word? Do you stand up for what is right, even when it costs you? Are you trustworthy? Are you loyal in your relationships? Be what you want your children to be!

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Birthday Recap

Although “the boy’s” birthday was Tuesday, we officially wrap up the festivities tomorrow. First off, the Hansbrough Pacer’s jersey was a huge hit. He hasn’t worn it yet but I think he’s afraid to mess it up. It will work nicely for our floor seats on Opening night in Indianapolis. Although it could be a total buzz kill if Hansbrough is still nursing his bad shin and doesn’t play! After school on Tuesday the family celebrated his birthday at Red Robin. The celebration was short lived because he was off to play his final game of Fall Ball. Tomorrow is … Continue reading Birthday Recap

Anything Like Me

In just one week, “the boy” will officially turn 9 years old. It is beyond my understanding where the last 9 years went. They always say it goes too fast and “they” are right. This is such an awesome age for all three of our kids. Especially “the boy”. Not only did the apple not fall far from the tree, it generally doesn’t stray too far from there either. If you’ve ever noticed, he is usually right next to me whenever we go somewhere. It both thrills and scares me to death. Hopefully I’m “raising him up in the way … Continue reading Anything Like Me

Tuesday Night Music Club

“The Boy” and I recently rigged up an area in the unfinished portion of our basement so he could practice pitching to a target this winter while we’re stuck indoors. We also wired up an old computer and iTunes 9 (with home sharing) to pump in music while we’re practicing. It’s not quite a “man cave”, but it works. At some point this evening, someone dialed up a little “Hoedown Throwdown” on the jukebox and the dance party was on. Below is a video featuring my girls and our nephew Jackson who joined the party a little later. Make sure … Continue reading Tuesday Night Music Club

A Class By Himself

A few weeks ago, I was flipping channels in time to see Michael Jordan’s induction speech for the Basketball Hall of Fame. You all know me enough by now to now that I bleed Carolina Blue. I defend the colors. I am obsessed with it’s history. But I will be the first to say this….Michael, you were a jerk. “The boy” and I often watch old clips of “His Airness” so he can see the amazing gifts and abilities of the greatest player to ever play. I’m thankful that “the boy” wasn’t watching the night I stumbled across MJ’s speech. … Continue reading A Class By Himself

The Apple and The Tree

This clip convicted me today. Maybe convicted isn’t the right word. Whatever the word, I was reminded that three small children in our home are just starting out in the world of dreaming. Each day they are molding and shaping the targets that they will push and live to pursue. In a week or two they will begin school again where their dreams, futures and the possibilities will grow. As their Dad, my words can push wind into their sails or drop an anchor on their dream journey. I see it the most right now in “the boy”. That apple … Continue reading The Apple and The Tree

My Favorite Part

Now that the dust has cleared and the half marathon is but a memory, I have been reflecting on what was my favorite part of the entire experience. Honestly, there are so many great moments from Saturday, it is hard to pick just one. Meeting my wife at the finish line, having family here for the event, seeing friends along the course and accomplishing a goal are all pretty high on the list. There is one moment that I really believe was my favorite part of the day. After making my way through the sea of people at the finish … Continue reading My Favorite Part

Hey Dad….

The other night we were watching the Cavs and Pistons game on TV and my 8 year old son hit me with one of “those questions” I was not prepared to answer. The questions were simple, the answers were not. Q: Hey Dad…is Lebron James a Christian? A: I don’t know Q: Hey Dad…is Tyler Hansbrough a Christian? A: Of course..he went to North Carolina A: Son, I don’t know. My guess is that because we don’t know, they might not be. Athletes that are Christian usually let everyone know. I’m not saying they are or are not, I just … Continue reading Hey Dad….

Memory Lane

I had to do a quick repost. Important note..THIS IS A REPOST! We’re not expecting a child. We were, however, expecting our third child 4 years ago when North Carolina was set to play for the National Championship. Those that have been here since the beginning might remember the chain of events that started the night before. In case you missed it, it was worth revisiting. Below you have my posts from the Sunday before the National Championship and the Day after. Good times… Quite A Dilemma (April 2, 2005) Okay, so one of your favorite teams is on the verge … Continue reading Memory Lane

For My Girls

“In My Arms” by Plumb Your baby blues So full of wonder Your curly cues Your contagious smile And as I watch You start to grow up All I can do is hold you tight Knowing clouds will raise up Storms will race in But you will be safe in my arms Rains will pour down Waves will crash all around But you will be safe in my arms Story books full of fairy tales Kings and queens and the bluest skies My heart is torn just in knowing You’ll someday see the truth from lies Knowing clouds will raise … Continue reading For My Girls

A Lesson in Grace

Last night I received a lesson and hopefully taught one as well. It was the bedtime hour and I was putting the kiddo’s to bed. My youngest daughter requested some juice in a sippy cup to place beside her bed. She got used to doing this during a recent battle with the flu so I didn’t mind agreeing to said request. My middle child heard the request and decided she would like a little bedside refreshment as well. One problem…she has been known to sleep right on through her “potty alarm”….if you know what I mean. Knowing that she would … Continue reading A Lesson in Grace

To Train Up A Child

There I was, enjoying “the day after” the big win against Duke today and then this picture popped up. Now I can’t stop looking at it. It gripped me the moment I saw it. The more I look at it, the more I see. This is not a story about my obsession with the Tar Heels. It’s not a story about how fond we are of Tyler Hansbrough. Rather it is a story about that often quoted verse from Proverbs 22:6 that most parents can quote “Train up a child in the way they should go and when he is … Continue reading To Train Up A Child

The Foundation

There was one other quote that I had to commit to memory from the book “The Difference A Father Makes” by Ed Tandy McGlasson. When I read it, it practically jumped out off of the page and tapped me one the shoulder. I think it hit a fear that many of us have as parents. As my son has gotten older and we can communicate further why we do things like discipline, I have taken a new approach. I have recently let him on to the secret that “this is my first time at this too” and “I’ve never been … Continue reading The Foundation

The Difference A Father Makes

While at the All Pro Dad Experience, we were all given a gift bag with several items in it. Arguably the most valuable thing was a book entitled “The Difference A Father Makes” by Ed Tandy McGlasson. I sat down yesterday to read it and was caught by something I read. An involved father can make all the difference in a child’s life. His love and care can be the deciding factor in helping a young one become who he or she was created to be. When our hearts are filled with security and trust in a dad who loves … Continue reading The Difference A Father Makes

When Love Takes You In

Many of the readers of this blog have gone through the adoption process. For those that have, I would like to introduce you to my friend and blogging band of brother Mud Puppy. While he didn’t ask for this and doesn’t know I’m going to do it, it was on my heart this afternoon. You can read the details and follow the journey of his family on his Blog, but they are beginning the steps toward adoption. To those that have walked where he and his wife are about to walk, would you reach out to them? To those that … Continue reading When Love Takes You In

It’s Back!

Saturday, September 13th is the officail launch date of this years All Pro Dad gatherings at Chick-Fil-a. A big thanks to my friend Tom Minturn for again supporting All Pro Dad. More details coming soon, but mark your calendards Dads (and Moms). We’re kicking off at 8:30am on the 13th. Some Links: All Pro Dad Our All Pro Dad page Download a handout to pass the word (here) Why we do what we do: “The Living Years” by Russ Lee Continue reading It’s Back!

It's Back!

Saturday, September 13th is the officail launch date of this years All Pro Dad gatherings at Chick-Fil-a. A big thanks to my friend Tom Minturn for again supporting All Pro Dad. More details coming soon, but mark your calendards Dads (and Moms). We’re kicking off at 8:30am on the 13th. Some Links: All Pro Dad Our All Pro Dad page Download a handout to pass the word (here) Why we do what we do: “The Living Years” by Russ Lee Continue reading It's Back!

Parental Wisdom

I just told my 7 year old the following: “If you want to do what you want to do today, then I suggest that you do what you know you should”. -me What? No sooner did it come out of my mouth then  I realized that I’m not sure I even understood what I meant. Did I mention the little person I said it to was 7 years old?? I think I know what I meant and he didn’t really react so maybe he did too. Or not… Continue reading Parental Wisdom

I Ordered Mine!

I can’t believe it has been two years since roughly 30 other men and I went through the book “Wild at Heart” by John Eldredge. Something special happened over the course of the 8 weeks within this group. Although we have all continued on our own journeys, I think what happened in “Wild at Heart” has stayed in “Wild at Heart”. It was something I will never forget. One of the men that joined us for the 8 weeks is a man named Ken Neff. While I did not know Ken before WAH started, I had the honor of getting … Continue reading I Ordered Mine!

True

A few weeks ago the family and I were on a road trip. The 80’s station on Sirius radio was the music of the moment and prompted the following discussion: Me: “with a thrill in my head and a pill on my tongue” what do you think he meant by that? (Through the radio comes the exact lyric I just quoted) Heather: “You’re a freak”. You see I have this sickness. Some people can memorize scripture. Others know history. I have this crazy ability to remember lyrics. Particularly from the 80’s. I can’t tell you what a congruent triangle is … Continue reading True

Loose Lips

With only 4 days left in the school year, I scheduled to have lunch with “the boy” at school today. He enjoys having me come in (I think it’s the fast food I bring) and I enjoy stepping into his world for 30 minutes. I get the opportunity to observe his circles of influence and see what the other kids at his school are like. I took the opportunity today to ask about several people in the cafeteria. One of the men I inquired about was the guy in charge of keeping the cafeteria and lunch hour running like a … Continue reading Loose Lips

Priceless….

I may bleed Carolina Blue, but no matter where I may roam, a large part of my heart belongs to my hometown of Cleveland, Ohio. Thanks to the ultimate hook-up from my friend Brian, “The Boy” and I had a chance on Saturday night to soak it all in. Check this out: Brian won four tickets from the local sports station to take part in their “Fan Bus to Jacobs Progressive Field”. Knowing I love the Tribe, he was kind enough to extend his winnings to “The Boy” and I. So Saturday we took off for C-Town with a bus … Continue reading Priceless….

For The Love Of…

Let’s take a stroll down memory lane…shall we? For those that have followed this thing since the beginning, you might remember when I wrote a post 3 years ago about a dilemma I was having (HERE). Matter of fact, last time the Tar Heels played for a championship, Heather almost had a baby…literally! (Details HERE) So it just seems appropriate that we are steamrolling our way into Final Four weekend and the Karma is everywhere. See if you can follow the bouncing ball on this one. You might have noticed that I am trying to discern a major decision which … Continue reading For The Love Of…

Saturday's All Pro Dad Day!

Wow…where did March go? A new month must mean that this Saturday is another All Pro Dad day. The topic this month is “Caring for the less fortunate“. We are privileged to have a guest speaker from Faith Mission in Columbus, Ohio with us. He will share a little bit about Faith Mission, but even more exciting is what will happen between our meetings in April and May. Based on the information from our guest speaker, Dads and kids will have the opportunity to spend the month gathering needed items and raising awareness of the less fortunate in our community. … Continue reading Saturday's All Pro Dad Day!

Saturday’s All Pro Dad Day!

Wow…where did March go? A new month must mean that this Saturday is another All Pro Dad day. The topic this month is “Caring for the less fortunate“. We are privileged to have a guest speaker from Faith Mission in Columbus, Ohio with us. He will share a little bit about Faith Mission, but even more exciting is what will happen between our meetings in April and May. Based on the information from our guest speaker, Dads and kids will have the opportunity to spend the month gathering needed items and raising awareness of the less fortunate in our community. … Continue reading Saturday’s All Pro Dad Day!

I Knew This Day Would Come

Somewhere in this bald head of mine, I guess I always knew this day would come. The day when I would officially start getting beat at Playstation 2 by “The Boy” on a regular basis. Don’t tell anyone, but tonight, he extended the winning streak to 4 games in a row. The games have been different (NCAA 08, NCAA 2k8, Backyard Basketball and NBA Live 06), but the results are starting to speak for themselves. Gone are the days of choosing Columbus State Community College while he chose North Carolina to keep things fair. He’s crushing me no matter who … Continue reading I Knew This Day Would Come

Please Be Patient…

When I was growing up, I had a small cross stitch picture in my room that my mom made. It was a picture of a little cowboy with the words “Please be patient, God’s not through with me yet“. I couldn’t help but think of how prophetic that little picture was..and still is today. While I write this and ask for each of your patience with me…I think I write it to remind myself as well. God is not through with me yet. I think so often I beat myself up over what I don’t do when it comes to … Continue reading Please Be Patient…

Please Be Patient…

When I was growing up, I had a small cross stitch picture in my room that my mom made. It was a picture of a little cowboy with the words “Please be patient, God’s not through with me yet“. I couldn’t help but think of how prophetic that little picture was..and still is today. While I write this and ask for each of your patience with me…I think I write it to remind myself as well. God is not through with me yet. I think so often I beat myself up over what I don’t do when it comes to … Continue reading Please Be Patient…

My All Pro Dad Notes

Want a sneak peak at my notes for tomorrows topic of “Your Relationship with Your Dad”? Here’s a glimpse: I thank you for the music and your stories of the road I thank you for the freedom when it came my time to go I thank you for the kindness and the times when you got tough And “Papa” I don’t think I said I love you near enough. -Dan Folgelberg (The Leader of The Band) I wasn’t there the morning when my father passed away. I didn’t get to tell him all the things I had to say I … Continue reading My All Pro Dad Notes

Perseverance

This coming Saturday, February 2nd, is our next All Pro Dad Day. Our topic for this gathering is one word…”Perseverance”. Scheduled to appear as our guest speaker is a man and Dad that embodies that word, Stefan Tarapchak. For those Dads (or wives) that read this and can spare an hour on Saturday, I promise you it will be worth the investment. Not only in your life, but in the life of your child. No matter what age. As we all prepare for the gathering, I would ask that each of you lift Stefan this week in prayer. I cannot … Continue reading Perseverance

I'm a lucky man

I have told my wife many times that if you want to judge my sanity, take a look at the inbox of my work email. It is a pretty good indication that if that inbox is full, I am stressed and close to losing what is left of my mind. Folks, since the turn of the calendar to 2008 my inbox has never been close to empty. To say I am stressed would be the understatement of a year that is only 3 weeks old. SERENITY NOW!!! All that to say, I’m a lucky man. It only took a song … Continue reading I'm a lucky man

I’m a lucky man

I have told my wife many times that if you want to judge my sanity, take a look at the inbox of my work email. It is a pretty good indication that if that inbox is full, I am stressed and close to losing what is left of my mind. Folks, since the turn of the calendar to 2008 my inbox has never been close to empty. To say I am stressed would be the understatement of a year that is only 3 weeks old. SERENITY NOW!!! All that to say, I’m a lucky man. It only took a song … Continue reading I’m a lucky man

He said "Thanks"!

Big moment last night at our house. Halftime of the Ohio State vs. Michigan State game hit at the kids bedtime hour so we all headed upstairs for a story and prayers. Since the Buckeyes were getting beat by 20 when we went upstairs, my sons request to stay up and watch the rest of the game was denied by management (me). It wasn’t received well, but was received none the less. Off to bed he went. I’m not sure how it is with your kids, but I wish I had a dollar for each time I have had to … Continue reading He said "Thanks"!

He said “Thanks”!

Big moment last night at our house. Halftime of the Ohio State vs. Michigan State game hit at the kids bedtime hour so we all headed upstairs for a story and prayers. Since the Buckeyes were getting beat by 20 when we went upstairs, my sons request to stay up and watch the rest of the game was denied by management (me). It wasn’t received well, but was received none the less. Off to bed he went. I’m not sure how it is with your kids, but I wish I had a dollar for each time I have had to … Continue reading He said “Thanks”!

Soulja Boy

This song and dance is everywhere. After seeing some little kids performing it while I was at the Ohio State Basketball game tonight, I am determined to teach it to Brynn. Since the last dance craze I know and can remember is the electric slide, I went looking for some help. Who else to have as your personal dance instructor than Lebron James himself? For those that have missed it (I might be the only one)…here’s how to “Soulja Boy” Continue reading Soulja Boy